Some people feel that sleeping together helps improve closeness but ….
Most married couples have already reached an agreement when it comes to sharing the matrimonial bed with each other. They are of the opinion that it helps improve closeness but reduces passion. They also feel that it increases the rate of intimacy but does no good to the amount of sleep one gets.
Isabel Hutton authored a book named ‘Sexual Technique in Marriage’ in 1932. In this book, she explained that it was imperative for newly married couples to sleep in different beds. She said this was necessary so that both of them would be introduced to rudiments of marriage in a gradual process. Also, the authors of ‘Marriage Book’, Stephen Adler and Lisa Grunwald who happen to be a typical example of modern married couples spoke with Caroline Modarressy of HuffPost. They talked about their opinion of the culture of bed sharing. They said that different opinions of bed sharing amongst newlyweds cannot be ascertained to be right or wrong. They felt that these opinion doesn’t necessarily translate to a happy marriage.
According to Lisa Grungwald, it is very strange to note that when people attain a particular age, they bring up the topic of different beds and this is surprisingly a forbidden topic. It douses romance between couples. She was also in support of Hutton’s advice, which was an excellent advice for newly married couples. The advice was based on an assumption that women who got married as virgins cannot be easily integrated into the act of sex. Therefore, it would be advisable to limit the amount of excitement afforded to the groom. Just like we do, Lisa believes everyone prefers having one bed.
Stephen Adler provides his own opinion on why he goes with the above topic. He feels that when it comes to sleeping space, it would be beneficial for any relationship or marriage to have a little space.
In every marriage, the couples see each other very often, and most times the moment is not really eye-catching. It is therefore necessary to maintain some form of privacy at one point or the other. Stephen Adler further explained that it’s not important for couples to be near each other during trying moments. Sometimes, it’s best for them to be temporarily separated. Companionship and intimacy helps one to see things better together, but love actually thrusts couples apart. Hence, it is important to find a suitable balance between both.
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